I know the 'aloof' pastor wife types you speak of, but I've also tried to consider how overwhelmed they must be. To have a potentially whole congregation feeling they're entitled to your ear, and you're not even 'the big guy' in the church, simply married to him. True enough, that this marriage and couple's career decision comes with a certain amount of anticipated and expected responsibility, but still.....already, people are calling her house at all hours for him, etc.
This particular woman, however, is anything but aloof or even simple. She's sincere and genuine. What if I had been away due to severe illness [me or my family]. He could've figured a way to call my home, yes? Don't know whether he had my number, but it seems I'd filled out something at some point, giving it. He didn't mention having tried ~ only an accusatory look, tone, and question. She, on the other hand, was welcoming every time I saw her ~ and still is....caring about the person instead of the pew presence. Yes, I know that his kind of 'caring' can be considered caring about the person and more, i.e. the soul. Yet, they know that not everyone feels this way, and perhaps, I wasn't feeling this way, but that possibility never came on the screen, and his behaviour crystallized my feelings even further. Not that my feelings are that tenuous, as to be based on, "Well, that preacher!!!" ~ but, it was one more nail in the bucket. His wife was one who, if anything, made you want to go to, attend, be a part of their church. She's what I consider a 'true Christian,' one living by Jesus's words. I've never sensed any feelings of condemnation in her ~ toward me or anyone else. She seems to understand the Christian [and others'] truth that it's G~d's place to judge. She speaks well for Christianity and I admire her as a person, as well as for that. Still she stands out in my memory of pastor's wives. I've encountered the kind you speak of, and it would seem, perhaps?, more than I've encountered ones like her ~ else, why is she so prominent in my mind of how Christians in general, much less pastor's wives, 'should' be [aside from their right to be 'human,' and feeling overwhelmed by their 'position,' of course].
This can get rather protracted, can't it? I need to get to work 
!Later,
Lizzy
. I am reminded of the quote: " What I am for you terrifies me. But what I am with you consoles me." 
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. When I returned, I finished up and Submitted ~ into the ethers 
. Now, I need to go into town, and then for a massage [Mmmm.....]. Anyway, if you want to wait, I can help segue you later back into the Smut Field, or I can give you a station break when I return to respond. In any case, I'll hand over the stage and the mic to you, Gypsy Rose Lee 