Hi Diane ~
Now that I have a little more time, thank you for posting the song about You're My Home. There are many overlaps between the song and our lives. It's ironic that he even uses "crazy gypsy in my soul" ~ that's something that's there in both of us, along with a phenomenal, colossal case of bad timing

. His gypsying desires and mine have never quite aligned. I guess going on separate gypsy ventures, the way some husbands and wives take separate vacations, might have been worth considering at one time. However, that was then, and this is now

. I love that song, though...and look forward to hearing it. Do you have it on CD, as in tranportable to Berlin

?
Reading your own story sounds like you finally conquered your fear of intimacy. What a difference, eh!?! As in a 5-year marriage

? I'm glad you connected with the resources to get that turned around in your life. What a sad, endless pattern it could've been otherwise. I don't think that's the issue with me, so much as my always having had him as the barometer [never a good plan], measuring others against him. Then, my being exceedingly discerning
aka particular, and having no interest in being with someone, just for the sake of being with someone. I guess a lot of factors add up to my being 'single' more years than I've been 'otherwise.' The status of two of your formers is great ~ particularly, with a husband who's accepting of those relationships for what they truly are

[and are not

!]
Life is a learning experience and I consider everyone I know, and everyone I meet, to be my teacher.
I've always liked this attitude and agree. The lessons are pretty broad-based sometimes, and don't always arrive with a lesson plan.
Such special friendships are priceless.
I also finally got to where I could bear to listen to him talk about his former girlfriend. I don't always arrive at this loftier positions with my own, former boyfriends; and arriving at it with regard to his former girlfriend wasn't without challenge, either. However, now it's fine. Fair's fair, of course, too

. I recall resolving that I was just going to do it, not restrict my breath

, listen openly, even bring her up from time to time. The more I made a conscious effort in that direction, the easier it became all the way around.
I really enjoyed all the reasons you like Billy Joel and his songs, Teratogen. One of those, learning about you through what you like, kind of thing.
~ Lizzy
That 'twinge' factor can be a trip, no matter where it comes from

.