It all makes sense the way you have worded it. Would it be the reverse for say, Battered Wives Sydrome? All self esteem eroded and fanasty takes over from reality.
An honest request for your opinions
Hi Paula,
Yes, I think that you are quite right. While bad things do happen to good people, how these things are processed is the key to recovery.
You've heard the term "the truth shall set you free"-sometimes it is the absence of truth which sets us free. There is a footrace in Australia that our friends down under may be familiar with. The race is between Sydney and Melbourne and a fellow by the name of Cliff Young shattered the record. You see, the belief of all the participants was that in order to run 600 miles, one would run for 18 hours and sleep 6. Now, no one told that to Cliff Young so he continued to run all night. If you change the way you think, you change the way you run.
We act and we behave in accordance with the truth as we believe it to be. Even more than that, it affects our perception. Once we get a strong belief, we become a selective perceiver. We only allow ourselves to perceive information that verifies our belief. So, we keep behaving and acting and confirming and knowing, "This is the way it is."
You get a mind set in the neurons of your brain, which affects what you perceive with your eyes. You pick up light with your eyes, which is translated in your brain based upon how, in the past, you have been conditioned to translate that light. If your past conditioning doesn't match what you are looking at, you build a scotoma to it. "Scotoma" is Greek for blindness. Very simply, a scotoma is a sensory blocking out of your environment and to information that actually exists. You can build scotomas in all of your senses-hearing, taste, smell, touch, too.
Now remember, we are operating not in accordance with the truth, but the truth as we believe it or perceive it to be.
Nations go to war over scotomas. Labor and management can fight it out over scotomas. Scotoma's happen because of our religious or educational backgrounds, our racial backgrounds, our occupational backgrounds. Everyone comes with a different set of beliefs. Once we understand that, we will be much more accountable for helping ourselves to be more effective in whatever endeavors we pursue.
I know of someone who works with prisoners. They always start by emphasizing how they have no control over their destiny. He tells them-"Of course you do." They say, "What can I do? I'm locked up behind bars." He says, "Well, break out. Of course, you'll have to assume the consequences of getting caught, if you are caught, but you always have a choice." The work that he does with getting them to take control of their beliefs is amazing.
I find this subject fascinating and I am enormously grateful that I grew up surrounded by people who did not beat down my self-esteem. I'm anxious to hear others thoughts on the subject.
Joe
P.S. Anne's on the road to recovery and found out she doesn't need surgery on her nose. People still glare at me when they see us together.
Yes, I think that you are quite right. While bad things do happen to good people, how these things are processed is the key to recovery.
You've heard the term "the truth shall set you free"-sometimes it is the absence of truth which sets us free. There is a footrace in Australia that our friends down under may be familiar with. The race is between Sydney and Melbourne and a fellow by the name of Cliff Young shattered the record. You see, the belief of all the participants was that in order to run 600 miles, one would run for 18 hours and sleep 6. Now, no one told that to Cliff Young so he continued to run all night. If you change the way you think, you change the way you run.
We act and we behave in accordance with the truth as we believe it to be. Even more than that, it affects our perception. Once we get a strong belief, we become a selective perceiver. We only allow ourselves to perceive information that verifies our belief. So, we keep behaving and acting and confirming and knowing, "This is the way it is."
You get a mind set in the neurons of your brain, which affects what you perceive with your eyes. You pick up light with your eyes, which is translated in your brain based upon how, in the past, you have been conditioned to translate that light. If your past conditioning doesn't match what you are looking at, you build a scotoma to it. "Scotoma" is Greek for blindness. Very simply, a scotoma is a sensory blocking out of your environment and to information that actually exists. You can build scotomas in all of your senses-hearing, taste, smell, touch, too.
Now remember, we are operating not in accordance with the truth, but the truth as we believe it or perceive it to be.
Nations go to war over scotomas. Labor and management can fight it out over scotomas. Scotoma's happen because of our religious or educational backgrounds, our racial backgrounds, our occupational backgrounds. Everyone comes with a different set of beliefs. Once we understand that, we will be much more accountable for helping ourselves to be more effective in whatever endeavors we pursue.
I know of someone who works with prisoners. They always start by emphasizing how they have no control over their destiny. He tells them-"Of course you do." They say, "What can I do? I'm locked up behind bars." He says, "Well, break out. Of course, you'll have to assume the consequences of getting caught, if you are caught, but you always have a choice." The work that he does with getting them to take control of their beliefs is amazing.
I find this subject fascinating and I am enormously grateful that I grew up surrounded by people who did not beat down my self-esteem. I'm anxious to hear others thoughts on the subject.
Joe
P.S. Anne's on the road to recovery and found out she doesn't need surgery on her nose. People still glare at me when they see us together.
"Say a prayer for the cowboy..."