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From every crevice and beat of my heart, thank you, Tom

Posted: Thu Feb 03, 2005 7:48 pm
by lizzytysh
This isn't poetry, Tom, but as it generates from the same soul and heart space, from whence poetry rises, I'm placing my open "thank you" to you here. Grief understood and shared is grief more healthily recovered from. Thank you for your gift of depth and understanding.

Dear Tom ~

There are no combinations of words sufficient to tell you how deeply I appreciate what you've written on Cherie and Cathleen's Memorial site. If I had them, I'd deliver them in pure gold and silver, to your door. Thank you, thank you, thank you. You have honoured them in truth and beauty with all that you've said. Taj Mahal is so right. The words of Dylan Thomas are so right. You have, again, found the words within ~ the ones that show the depth of your caring, and keen sense of others' realities. These words have endeared me to you in ways far more crucial and important than any misunderstandings or disagreements in times gone by. Thank you, Tom. Thank you.

All my love,
Elizabeth

Posted: Fri Feb 04, 2005 12:42 pm
by tom.d.stiller
Dear Elizabeth -

I just did what I had to do. Go to the place where a friend's grief resides, and be honest there, with yourself, with your friend, with the world. Shouldn't be a big thing.

I have nothing but words. Here are some more (from The little prince)...
And at night you will look up at the stars. Where I live everything is so small that I cannot show you where my star is to be found. It is better, like that. My star will just be one of the stars, for you. And so you will love to watch all the stars in the heavens . . . they will all be your friends. And, besides, I am going to make you a present . . ."

He laughed again.

"Ah, little prince, dear little prince! I love to hear that laughter!"

"That is my present. Just that. It will be as it was when we drank the water . . ."

"What are you trying to say?"

"All men have the stars," he answered, "but they are not the same things for different people. For some, who are travelers, the stars are guides. For others they are no more than little lights in the sky. For others, who are scholars, they are problems. For my businessman they were wealth. But all these stars are silent. You--you alone--will have the stars as no one else has them--"

"What are you trying to say?"

"In one of the stars I shall be living. In one of them I shall be laughing. And so it will be as if all the stars were laughing, when you look at the sky at night . . . You--only you--will have stars that can laugh!"

And he laughed again.

"And when your sorrow is comforted (time soothes all sorrows) you will be content that you have known me. You will always be my friend. You will want to laugh with me. And you will sometimes open your window, so, for that pleasure . . . And your friends will be properly astonished to see you laughing as you look up at the sky! Then you will say to them, 'Yes, the stars always make me laugh!' And they will think you are crazy. It will be a very shabby trick that I shall have played on you . . ."

And he laughed again.

"It will be as if, in place of the stars, I had given you a great number of little bells that knew how to laugh . . ."
Love
Tom

Posted: Fri Feb 04, 2005 1:21 pm
by Critic2
Tom, what is this about? has Lizzie suffered a bereavement? all my love to you Lizzie if you are in a bad place.

Posted: Fri Feb 04, 2005 1:38 pm
by tom.d.stiller
Critic2 wrote:Tom, what is this about? has Lizzie suffered a bereavement? all my love to you Lizzie if you are in a bad place.
lizzytysh, in the Auschwitz thread, wrote:I lost three, women friends within a 13-day period, all suddenly and unexpectedly. One was 38, one was 41, and one was 49. The first [Lilly ~ age 41] died December 20, and the other two [Cathleen ~ age 38, and Cherie ~ age 49] died January 2. They were all phenomenal women. I was supposed to get together for dinner and conversation with Lilly on December 22. Instead, I attended her Memorial, and they buried her ashes on December 23. People who have been here a long time may recall my mentioning going to the Coffee Shop [in Melrose ~ called Take Me Places] that I loved so much. Cherie and Cathleen were the owners. We [general community] are trying to keep it open because she [Cherie] created such a legacy with it, with the openness and love they extended to everyone who came there, embracing everyone for who they were, and creating connections between people. All three were phenomenal women, and that's how I felt while they were still alive.
May I add that Cherie and Cathleen died in a motorcycle accident caused by a drunk driver who lost control over his car?

Posted: Fri Feb 04, 2005 6:47 pm
by Critic2
thank you so much for explaining. I now understand and can contact lizzy direct.