What's happening to this board?

[lizzytysh]

Kush ~ In fact, I loved Paula's perfect, 'pub' description.

Anne-Marie ~ Not to worry. Tom.d.stiller's here to stay [perhaps a sabbatical occasionally, but I doubt that now's the time for that].

Tchocolatl ~ So, all's L that ends L, right ?

L,
Lizzytysh

[tom.d.stiller]

Now Tom d. maybe after all your friends convinced me that you were not trolling me. I still do not understand some strange intercourses with you, but ey!.... 'dont' mind. I'll let go.

Still I have difficulty with your "Dad is always right" way of adressing some participants, including me. But! Ey!... I'll let go also.

End of this file.

Dear Tchocolatl,

please accept my apologies, as some of my posts have given you the impression I'd be "trolling" you. It seems we've misunderstood each other quite a lot. I'll take the blame for large parts of it; I should have expressed myself more clearly.

Let me state it explicitely once and for all: I always appreciated your input to the discussions both on Leonard and non-Leonard topics. Many times I could simply agree, with or without saying so. In some cases I felt I had to add a different shade to what you had stated.

But even where I don't agree: "Dad" is not always right. Neither am I. But if I am convinced of something, I'll state it as "well-considered truth". Maybe I'm wrong; please prove me wrong, then. Or just state your case. That's what discussions are for, to approach truth from different directions.

I can give up positions I've arrived at, when there is a good point against them. I've done that in the past, and I'll do that in the future. I abandoned about half of what I considered to be the truth when I was 35 over the last ten years. And should I find that more than 50% of my current positions will still be held a decade from now, I'd ruffle myself for not having learned properly.

There was never a thought of you being an outsider. Or a newcomer. In fact it seems you've been around here longer than I: your four years as opposed to my meagre two... And I always welcomed newcomers, by the way. (At least I did before some trolls put every genuine newcomer under suspicion of being one more screen name of a well-known troll.)

Maybe in future exchanges we can evade some of the traps of misunderstanding. I'll try. That doesn't mean, I'll succeed. We're not infallible, or are we?

File closed.

Cheers
tom

[tomsakic]

Before we close the file for real : well, I feel now like we needed this "fight", it's that knwon feeling (at least from my experience) that after the "fight" things got clearer Nobody need any aspirins now:-)

About newcomers - Tchoco, I never was at any Event, and about trading - most trading is done outside of this forum. If you wanna trade, then you must used many other peculiar sites and google (of all people I traded, nobody is regular visiter here than our Hanna from Poland, and she comes very rarely also - the interchange with Margaret or Jarkko is more like exchanging the gifts). So, I don't know any of you in flesh except Jurica. So, I wasn't there on any beginning (if there was a beginning). In any case, I think there are about ten persons who are very regular here, and which I feel like I meet everyday, and you're surely among them
In any case, thanks for all nice words to all, and PMs of consolation... Maybe we should take beer for real together Unfortunately, Paula, Lyzzie, Margaret, Linda - I am not coming to Hydra this year due to many reasons (the main being bad connections with Greece). So I do propose that we meet in Berlin next year as much we can - and Tchoco, I was expecting you there! (Actually, I do except all of most prominent visitors here.) About gifts / trading, and remembering yout objection from few weeks ago, how you would like to see Stina's Interview one day, I was thinking last night how I could send you few CDRs, make small choice of best things (Stina, Poetry Readings, video CD) for you, if you only have official records. - - I planned something similar for tom.d. also (but I still didn't tell him ) because we worked together on Old Ideas and I actually don't now does he has anything except the real albums (have you, tom.d?)... And there's a fact that I owe such package to Lyzzie more than 1,5 year now... I will not deliver it personally to you, lyzzitish, on Hydra after all...

[Tchocolatl]

I have to do fast again, I'll be short, then. Yes Tom S, your are right, to talk about a problem permits to solve it. To hide a problem only make it bigger and bigger and worse. Unclear things are clears now, at last : when sky/communication is clear, nagivation is smooth. (Like after rain).

Tom d. I appreciate you to be there, here, as well as your honesty and modesty (I mean I must be the most foggy of the two of us, if not of the whole board in some posts of mine.). The past misunderstandings, now will lay in the closed file. I will certainly not open it myself. In my experience, clarifying misunderstandings just leads to less and less misunderstandings, just more and more better communication.

So let's go for new adventures now

And G_d knows what may happen

[Tchocolatl]

(...)
Tchoc, you should realy meet Tom in person, however much you dislike these get-togethers. (...)

Jurica, I have to put a possible misundertanding straight too, it seems. I do not dislike "at large" the get-togethers - I'm not just a fan of "group travelling" first, and second, I just can not travel at all (unfortunately) presently. I am sure it would be very interesting and pleasant to meet other fans personnaly in a little meeting (I do not like very much to go in big group), they are not reason for me not wanting to participate. I find very nice the magical experiences people had about these events and I wish you many great ones in the future.

Not much "juice" to this "argument", though. Sorry I did not mean to by dry either.

[linda_lakeside]

This is GREAT! Let's all have a group hug! Oh, sorry, I got a little carried away there! Yes, that's all we can do, is start again, and hope for new adventures. And speak to one another.

Well, that was a nice start for my day!

Linda.

[lizzytysh]

This is GREAT! Let's all have a group hug! Oh, sorry, I got a little carried away there!

~ That gave me such an image of you, that I'm just certain can't be far from the truth . That's as to how you 'play,' not your normal presence, of course .

Tchocolatl ~ For many, many years, probably all my life, I've felt exactly as you have about large, group gatherings. My greatest preference is one-on-one and, if not that, a small [preferably very small] group. So, I was stunned by my own level of enjoyment when I went to New York ~ and so glad I took the plunge. I still kept the vast majority of my interactions at a one-on-one level [preferences like that don't really change], but WOW, what I would've missed had I allowed my decision, to go, be dictated accordingly. This, of course, is not to suggest that you 'should' change your thinking on the Events for yourself, but hopefully, at some point, when you are able, you'll be open to trying one, just once. Like Lays potato chips, it could end up a matter of, "I bet you can't eat [attend] just one." I would so love to meet you one day.

Love,
Elizabeth

[jurica]

i'm quite introverted person. i keep as far away as possible from large spectacles, soccer matches, mass concerts, public speaches... i even stay as far away as possible from class reunions, disco clubs, sunday masses...

BUT, i've had great time with a lot of people when we were interested in the same things, and had some purpose i could relate to (trips with my sport club, film festivals, workshops...)

it depends on the occasion. even a hard core "two is company, three is a crowd" like me can sometimes enjoy large groups of people.

[linda_lakeside]

I also tend to avoid large gatherings. Family reunions and the like I try to avoid at all costs. When I do attend the larger events, I'm not comfortable as so many of the attendees have no interest in things I have interest in. Therefore, I think a Cohen event would be D Luxe! We all have common ground and we sort of 'know' one another. I think an event of this type would be a wonderful time! Let's hope Berlin comes cheap (ha ha ha ha) The financial burden can be pretty heavy when one has to cross an entire continent just to reach the starting point! Nonetheless, I'm going to try so hard to make it to Berlin - I have a game plan and everything. Now all I need is a big pile of money.

See you (in Berlin)
Linda.

[linda_lakeside]

Hey Lizzy ~

Very perceptive!

~ Linda.

[Critic2]

I also tend to avoid large gatherings. Family reunions and the like I try to avoid at all costs. When I do attend the larger events, I'm not comfortable as so many of the attendees have no interest in things I have interest in. Therefore, I think a Cohen event would be D Luxe! We all have common ground and we sort of 'know' one another. I think an event of this type would be a wonderful time! Let's hope Berlin comes cheap (ha ha ha ha) The financial burden can be pretty heavy when one has to cross an entire continent just to reach the starting point! Nonetheless, I'm going to try so hard to make it to Berlin - I have a game plan and everything. Now all I need is a big pile of money.

See you (in Berlin)
Linda.

it will be worth your effort and finacial sacrifice just to see the opening of the Event. the rest is a bonus.

[lizzytysh]

This would be to say that you're in it , yes?

[Partisan]

it will be worth your effort and finacial sacrifice just to see the opening of the Event. the rest is a bonus.

Are they getting some one else for Berlin?

p.

[Critic2]

a German Academic, should be very interesting. Henning is organsing it all.

[linda_lakeside]

Maybe LC will make an appearance. Wouldn't that be something?