Geoffrey wrote:on a good day i can perhaps sketch a little, but sadly lack your enviable writing precision or the imaginative wit of solongleonard. i feel i am the poor relation in this triangle...
I have to admit that I lack the competitive tendencies that I observe in many of my fellow human beings. I am not them, they are not me, and thus it seems quite absurd to make direct comparisons between myself and others as a means of determining my own personal worth.
As a child, it was sometimes suggested to me that I should try to be more like the other kids (apparently so that I would better "
fit in", as if I wanted to do that!), but my response was always, "Why can't they be more like
me?". Of course, I didn't particularly want that, either, but I thought it relevant to point out to the woefully misguided adults that if one is determined to compare people, it ought to go both ways, for to favour one side over the other is really rather offensive, completely ignoring or even outright denigrating the wonderful uniqueness of the one being asked to change.
We all have our individual talents, abilities, propensities, etc., and I have always thought that such differences make the world a rather interesting place, allowing for myriad joyous discoveries of facets of existence that we would not otherwise know or be able to appreciate if we were all the same.
This bizarre competitiveness that seems to be encouraged and which pervades so many aspects of our social interactions, does nothing but create a tremendously negative atmosphere that prevents people from being able to take delight in the accomplishments of others without feeling inadequate because they have not done (or cannot do) the same things.
When people suggest that it is in human nature to be competitive, often citing Darwin to support their claim that we are somehow genetically hard-wired to be that way in order to survive, two thoughts immediately spring to my mind: 1) such a belief betrays a deep misunderstanding of Darwin's work, for he would have rejected (and been appalled by) the application of his genetic discoveries to a social context; and, 2) since I have always lacked this distasteful predisposition, but am nonetheless firmly convinced that I am, in fact, human, surely it cannot be inherent, and must therefore be something that people are simply taught to believe.
A person with moderate intelligence and the ability to think critically should be able to recognise a load of BS when they see it, and that includes the ridiculous assumption that if we do not possess the particular talents of specific others, then we are somehow fundamentally inferior to them. Sorry, but I don't buy into that idea, and neither should anyone else! I think that it is far better to cultivate the really lovely notion that each of us can rejoice in who we are, as we are, without the unnecessary (and fruitless) burden of trying to be something that we are not.
Just a thought.