So, you are talking about a disgrace.shame [sheym] Show IPA
Part of Speech: noun
Definition: disgrace, embarrassment
abashment, bad conscience, blot, chagrin, compunction, confusion, contempt, contrition, degradation, derision, discomposure, discredit, disesteem, dishonor, disrepute, guilt, humiliation, ignominy, ill repute, infamy, irritation, loss of face, mortification, obloquy, odium, opprobrium, pang, pudency, remorse, reproach, scandal, self-disgust, self-reproach, self-reproof, shamefacedness, skeleton in the cupboard, smear, stigma, stupefaction, treachery
honor, pride, respect
This is not a life sentence.
As shame can be treated just like guilt.