lazariuk wrote:Well done Abby.
yes well done indeed. but the thing is that john and me have always been best friends, for ages, it's just been me and him we did everything went everywhere together, like brothers. but just recently another guy has joined us, jostein his name is, so there's three of us now, a triangle sort of. we all get on well together, but i still think of john as my best friend. the trouble is he regards jostein as his best friend, so the dynamics have changed a bit. and a few days ago jostein said i am his best friend, he has said it more than once in fact, but never when john is around. we're not sucking each others' dicks or anything like that, and i don't think there's any jealousy going around - it's just that i've noticed that when you are with two other people there's always one that you like more than the other. sometimes it's just a fraction more, even though it is usually a lot more. maybe that's why marriages often go downhill after the kid is born, because the chances of the love being divided 50/50 are as remote as seeing jehovas witnesses in church to celebrate christmas. it's like when you get married, the balance of power is tilted as soon as you get back home and close the door; one of you is more dominant than the other. could be just very slightly, but that tiny margin can only grow, become a wedge, because there is not a compromise to every marital problem, sometimes the answer is just a yes or a no. but when me john and jostein were walking through the shopping centre this is what happened: first jostein met somebody he knew and we stopped up while they chatted for a minute or two. then john met somebody he knew and we had to stop up again. this put me in a spot because i felt that is i didn't meet anybody i knew then it would look like they were more well-known and popular than me, they might think that i was inferior to them. i had to wave to a couple of strangers in one shop we passed and pretended i knew them, but i don't like being forced to lie like that. i don't think it's working really with three of us because of the rivalry element. why does jostein have to keep telling me i am his best friend, it's like when you say to a fatally wounded soldier "don't worry, help is on the way" even when you know he's going to be dead in a couple of minutes. i used to do handsprings for john, i helped him, shouldered the blame when he went to the toilet in that house that was for sale even. we were looking at a house that had come on the market, there were loads of prospective buyers there, even though john and me didn't have any plans to buy it we just wanted to see what it was like. the estate agent was welcoming all the newcomers in at the entrance while we wandered around upstairs. then john went into the toilet and locked the door. after a minute or two i heard the water flush from the cistern so i guessed he had done his business in there. anyway, as he opened the door and came out, so did the smell he had made. then he went into the front bedroom just as the estate agent came upstairs with a lady to show her around. it was so embarrassing, he didn't say anything to me, and he didn't have say anything either because the look he gave me and his body language said it all. he thought it was me who had done it. i can't imagine jostein just standing there taking the blame like i did. but the worst thing of all is - sorry i have to go now.