lizzytysh wrote:Okay, well... next time I see you, Abby, I'll see it.
Looking forward to it.
well, i'm never going to have a tattoo, not ever - and leonard isn't either. we're just not doing it.
Leonard seems like the kind of guy who might like to be buried with his family, and tattoos would keep him from that, yes? Me, I've had a vault reserved for my ashes since I was a teenager, right alongside my mom's and my my maternal grandparents', but it's my mother's family, and they're not Jews, and the cemetery that houses their ashes is secular. I'm a half Jew from my dad's side. I mostly want to sell the space and have my ashes scattered somewhere, in some body of water.
There is a little piece of me, though, that feels a pull to my vault, to keeping my ashes with my family's. It's probably not far from the little part that wishes I had an unmodified body, no holes in my earlobes, no tattoos, no jewelry, no makeup, but scars don't fall along these lines, no way. I gave myself my first tattoo when I was 13 or 14, stick and poke, prison style. The first tattoo I had done professionally, I was 18, was the Hallelujah on my back- it was supposed to be something sad or foreboding for a lover to see, but it never really worked that way. It was supposed to say, look at me, I'm too far gone.
I've always been a little too far gone, just wired that way.
That little wish for the plainest body disappears, though, when I see beautiful tattoos on women who also seem a little too far gone. I like being a part of that club : ) I'm not much for tattoos on men, though- they're men, you're a man, Geoffrey. Women with tattoos have an edge, an antidote to the image of woman as nurturer. It's like men with some outward sign of tenderness- they evoke similar feelings in me- men showing themselves tenderer than tough, maybe with a baby wrapped against their bodies. Defying gender roles, I guess.
When you wake up in the morning & out of nowhere comes the sadness of alienation & loneliness, could you use that as a golden opportunity? Rather than persecuting yourself or feeling that something terribly wrong is happening, right there in the moment of sadness & longing could you relax & touch the limitless space of the human heart? -Pema Chodron