I've downloaded a live version of So long Marianne from Hannover, Deutschland - (Kuppelsaal) April 13, 1988
I love this version too.
In this version, he skipped half of the verses and he changed the lyrics to "And just when I climbed this whole goddamn mountainside"
And another version : 6 May 1993 Falkoner Teatret, Copenhagen, Denmark
it's very similar to the one you mentionned, Tom (Oslo, with the new verse at the beginning, and how he sounds while he's singing), this version is amazing!!!!
Also, in that concert, the version of I'm you man is really great

and I love the banter :
[before Waiting for the miracle]
Baby, let's get married...
See, I've never had response quite that enthusiastic! We've been alone too long. Let's be alone together. Let's see if we're that strong. Let's do something crazy, substan... Ha, ha! Ah, wherever I go, you'll meet me right there. Thank you.
[before I'm your man]
Oh, thank you so much, friends. If you want a boxer, I will step into the ring for you. And if you want a doctor, please line up, because I will examine every inch of you.
I just got your mail, Tom, thank you so much!!
Hands down the best version of So long Marianne I've ever heard

Like you said : "he sounds emotionally devastated and he's somewhere between reciting, singing, and shouting"
shocking experience for me too...
