Well well well, chicken fat is very bad for the heart, eh? And overweight a car is very bad for the bearings, also.
For me, I think that he may have seen himself as ugly sometimes, when he was suffering, expressing it and feeling it as his own ugliness. Just an idea that I have (I' m still in YDrFr therapy group, so, don't worry).
For the rest, well, there is many kind of love. Erotic, ludic, friendship style love, etc.
Both men and women have a favorite style, only, men are more free to express what they are, yes, still in 2004, moreover in "those" times.
I know some women that never fall in love with men under the beauty rate of Brad Pitt, let say (pick this one or another).
That is erotic love, where beauty is the major quality of the lover, and if for some reason the beauty fade or the appeal about this particular beauty fade, love is fading as well.
This could be true love whatever people can say about it.
("I loved you for your beauty but that doesn't make a fool of me").
It could be just erotic also, yes. this is true. Thank you.
However friendship style love does not need such an amount of beauty (may I say this?) from the partner. And this is true love also.
People are different. I know this is obvious. But it seems less obvious that they can truly love differently.
Both women and men are under a kind of tyranny of beauty, only, men seem to have the right to exist out of this, while for women, this is more difficult to be recognized for something else. This is where the injustice is, to my humble point of view.
"He can love the shape of human beings, the fine and twisted shapes of the heart. It is good to have among us such men, such balancing monsters of love."